Ask HN: Has anyone here ever rebuilt themselves in their late 30s?
The author reflects on their struggles with mental resilience after becoming a parent. They express a desire to improve themselves and pursue their dreams of entrepreneurship but feel held back by their habits. The article highlights the internal conflict between wanting to change and the comfort of familiar routines.
- ▪The author recently had a child and feels mentally weak and lacking in discipline.
- ▪They have aspirations to build a company but often choose easier paths after work.
- ▪The author acknowledges their tendency to complain and seeks to become stronger and more resilient.
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I had a kid recently, and I realized that I'm not a very mentally strong/resilient person. I mean, in some ways I am and have built up a life I love, but I want to do more and be more, and know that I lack discipline.Having a kid is extremely difficult, and so mentally taxing, so I find myself inadvertently shying away from some of the work and lean more and more on my wife/in-laws. I am nowhere near absent, but I find myself to be a complainer when it comes to this stuff and feel that I shouldn't be this way. I need to be stronger.I've always wanted to build a company/be a founder. I know I would be happier because I do my best work when I'm working on my own projects.
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Excerpt limited to ~120 words for fair-use compliance. The full article is at Ycombinator.