Dear Abby: Our mother died on my son’s birthday — and my sibling insists on making the day somber
A woman seeks advice from Dear Abby about handling grief with her siblings after their mother's death. The mother passed away on her son's birthday, and she wishes to focus on celebrating her son instead of mourning. She is unsure how to communicate her feelings to her sister, who continues to send reminders of their mother's passing.
- ▪The woman's mother died 2 1/2 years ago on her son's birthday.
- ▪She prefers to celebrate her son's birthday rather than mourn her mother's death.
- ▪The woman's sister sends sad messages about their mother, which she finds upsetting.
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Dear Abby Lifestyle Dear Abby: Our mother died on my son’s birthday — and my sibling insists on making the day somber By Dear Abby Published May 21, 2026, 3:00 a.m. ET Dear Abby advises a woman on how to handle grief with her siblings. See more of our coverage in your search results. Add The New York Post on Google DEAR ABBY: Our dear mother passed away 2 1/2 years ago, which was very sad for me and my three siblings. Her passing happened on my adult son’s birthday. I try hard to focus only on the happy occasion of celebrating my wonderful son on his day, but my older sister sends me sad messages, stories, pictures, etc., usually starting a few days before.
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